I can't believe that around this time, last year, my little "surprise" was still kicking and squirming around in my belly.
In just a couple weeks, my little man will be ONE and I cannot help but wonder how the first year flies.
We had 2 babies under the age of 1
When we brought our little man home, it felt so surreal. It was just yesterday (11 months ago) that we were driving home our baby girl. My husband looked in the rearview mirror, and said to me, "Honey, I can't believe we have two babies?"
These 2 years have hands down, been the best years of my life. Watching my babies grow from a newborn into their own little beings has been the best experience ever. My heart is so full and I've felt a love like nothing before.
But being a new mom isn't always easy and this journey does not come with a handbook.
So, here are a few little things that I wish I did this first year...
Rested mamas are the best mamas!!
Accept it, you're lacking sleep!
Whether this is your first baby, second, or third, you my dear, are sleepy.
I was stubborn and wanted to do everything for my babies. I felt like rest was the last thing I needed and that I could just DO IT ALL. So, I refused any help. I wanted to cook, clean, feed, pump, and rock those babies to sleep. I enjoyed eve3ry bit of I, but at the end of the day, I was tired, easily irritable, and burnt out.
Many months passed by before I realized that I was a better mom and wife when I was well rested. I was more patient, I had more energy, and accepting help wasn't the end of the world.
So, whether it's hubby or nana. It's ok to ask for help. Give them the little one and let your body recover.
Next,
Embrace the new you!
I was a little heart broken when the clothes that fit me after baby girl, didn't even come close to fitting me after baby boy. I worked out my whole 1st pregnancy, but because I had a C-Section and my babies were so close in age, I didn't work out as much for the second baby.
During both pregnancies, I was on the fit-mom bandwagon. I ate everything I craved, but portion controlled myself. I followed all the fit preggo mamas on instagram, I read preggo mama blogs, so on and so forth. So, I pressured myself into hurrying up and getting back into shape.
Truth be told...
You just made a little human. It grew inside you. It was God's most beautiful miracle.
Relax, and give yourself time. It's not a race; With a little motivation, you'll slowly get there.
I wish I griped less about how much weight I had left over, and spent more time understanding the fact that, I had 2 babies in 11 months.
Lastly, but most importantly...
Date your husband
His hormones might not be going crazy, his body might not have changed, but just like you,
His life has changed.
My husband and I equally spend all of our time, energy and heart on our babies; And we are happy to do so.
It wasn't until recently, that I realized...We barely talk at home. We're either quietly going about our business because they babies are asleep, or we're they're awake and we're either feeding them or playing with them.
We talk to on the phone on my way to work and back...and that's IT.
I thought to myself "He lives with me, but I still miss him..."
The fix: Take some time to getaway
We still haven't gotten to the once a week yet, but we try at least once a month to get away. We'll either go out to a movie, dinner, or sometimes a quick trip to some ice-cream.
If you can't find the time to go out. Have a date night at home. After the kids go to bed, order in some take-out, or if you're up to it, cook him a nice meal.
But, whatever you do, make time for one another. He was there before the little ones and he's going to be there after they grow up. Love on him...
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